Through coaching over 500 clients in the past three years, we’ve seen the same attachment patterns surface again and again. Polyamory has a way of revealing the roots of our relational wounds faster than almost anything else. It doesn’t create our insecurities, it illuminates them. And what’s fascinating is how often those patterns trace back to early experiences like the firstborn “dethronement,” where love first felt like something you could lose. We see it all the time: firstborns stepping in